Places: Should your parents move in with you?
the decision to move a parent into your home is not
necessarily as clear-cut as it would seem. A number
of situations and questions arise that need addressing.
It can be helpful to consider the following issues before
the move is made:
will you talk to my parent(s) about moving?
will my spouse and children feel about moving my parent(s)
into our home and how will it change our lives together?
things will be easy for us to negotiate in living
together and what things will be hard?
are the limits of your ability to care for your parent(s)
will your siblings feel?
your siblings be able to help care for your parent(s)?
your parent(s) friends come to visit at your house?
Or will your mom or dad be dependent on your for all
are your needs for privacy and alone time?
will your parent(s) sleep? In your daughter's room?
Will you need to convert the den, build an addition?
special devices do you need? Grab bars in the bathroom?
Raised toilet seat, ramps, etc.?
your parent smoke or drink and will that be a problem?
your mom or dad have a pet? Can you care for that
pet? How do you feel about that pet living in your
will the financial arrangement be? Should you charge
rent? Will you have expenses that you'd like your
parents to reimburse?
will your siblings feel about the financial arrangement?
your work situation have to change, and if so, how
will you cover the bills?
your parent(s) need care during the day, and if so,
how will it be provided?
will you juggle your job, childcare responsibilities,
marriage and taking care of your adult parents?
will you have time for yourself?
kind of arrangements will need to be made when you
go out of town for business or vacation?
comfortable are you with helping your mother or father
bathe? Will you be willing to change an adult diaper?
you prepared yourself for what to expect when your
parent(s) condition changes?
is your health and will you be able to take care of
yourself in addition to taking care of a parent?
you willing to accept respite care to get a break?
Every family situation is different. If you are facing
these questions, Aging Family Services can help you
sort out the pros and cons of such a move and provide
information and resources to make things easier for
you and your family. Call or send
an email if you'd answering these and other tough
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